Breaking the Silence

Women's health concerns have often been shrouded in silence. In India, this silence is particularly pronounced. Conversations about periods, menopause, and other health concerns are usually suppressed, leaving many women misunderstood, misdiagnosed, and uninformed, preventing them from seeking the help and support they need. The unspoken rule to manage quietly and not discuss our health openly is a common thread in most women's lives, leaving us to endure in silence and believe it is our fate, a rite of passage – after all, isn’t it all part of “being a woman?

As I faced my own health challenges, from hormonal imbalances and ovarian cysts to anxiety and severe postpartum depression, the lack of open dialogue continued. I have undergone two laparoscopies, two laparotomies, and two C-sections. My symptoms were often classified as psychological or dismissed altogether. I have been prescribed birth control pills as a one-size-fits-all solution for various issues, from acne to menstrual pain and even migraines, without fully explaining the long-term effects.

At 36, shortly after the birth of my second child, I unexpectedly found myself entering perimenopause, a condition I knew little about. The sudden onset brought with it a surge of panic, intense loneliness, and a deep sense of failure. The physical changes, hormonal fluctuations, and emotional strain were unbearable. I felt completely lost and unsupported. Attempts to discuss my situation often resulted in nervous laughter and indifference, with comments like, “Well, you're not trying to get pregnant, so why does it matter?” Many even attributed my symptoms to my diet and lifestyle, which only deepened my sense of isolation. Navigating this new phase of life felt incredibly daunting.

Now, having reached menopause, over a decade (two in some cases) earlier than most of my friends and peers. I face additional challenges I had not envisaged. New obstacles to overcome. New solutions and treatments to seek. The journey to find effective and gentle methods for symptom management has been fraught with difficulty, marked by trial and error, frustration, and moments of despair.

These experiences opened my eyes to the profound impact of silence and bias on women's health. Too often, our reports of pain and discomfort are hushed or dismissed as exaggerated or emotional. Conditions like endometriosis and fibromyalgia frequently go undiagnosed for years because their symptoms are not recognized or are mistaken for less serious conditions.

The time for change is now. No woman should be left to suffer in silence, feeling invisible and burdened by her health. For far too long, our health issues have been sidelined or disregarded. For too long, we've wandered blindly, misled by a glaring absence of knowledge, conversation, and inclusive research skewed toward male physiology. Scientific progress is promising, but it’s only part of the solution. We must shatter this silence, share our stories, and ensure no one faces this journey alone.

Maya Angelou once said, "You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them." This quote speaks to me. It reminds me of the importance of resilience and support. The need to speak and speak out. The need to share our stories. To advocate for more inclusive research, higher quality products, and greater transparency. Information is power; through camaraderie and conversation, we can break down barriers and make informed decisions, paving the way to a healthier and more informed society.

This is what I envision Terrapy to be: a space where women can share their stories without fear or shame. A platform for information and options where we can learn, share, and support one another while we navigate our health journeys together. A community where every voice is heard, every experience is valued, and where we unite to break the silence and inspire each other toward a happier, healthier, and more vibrant life.

I invite you to join me on this journey…..