Her Tales : Intimacy and Desire

When it comes to sex for women and their desires, many have many different opinions and many like to voice them. The world is filled with opinions and advice; however, when it comes to desire, who knows better than a woman what she wants? That's why we asked 4 different women about what they discovered about sex and how it changed their perspective!

I don't remember thinking about sex for a long time. While I would discuss it with my friends, I could never relate when they would say they couldn't finish work because they were thinking about sex. I was judged for not having sex frequently with my partner, but we were happy, so it didn't matter. Slowly, I have started to realise that's all that matters. Whether you don't want to leave each other for a moment or find other ways of romance in your life, whatever works for you is just enough! Sheena Kapoor 24 year old, Delhi In a relationship

My husband and I had a love marriage, and we were inseparable for the first few years of our marriage. Everything was amazing, and we assumed that's how it would be. However, once our baby boy entered our lives, things shifted, and we no longer had the energy we once had. We barely had any time for ourselves, which also affected our sex life. I thought we could never go back to our happy selves. However, when I spoke to my gynaecologist about these things, she told me that it would change my desires along with my partner's. Slowly, as I recovered from postpartum, the romance was back again. Over the years, we rekindled the old spark in a new way . Shirin Patel 35 years old, Pune Married

My partner and I had an arranged marriage in the '90s. Shy smiles and coy glances were our courtship. Once married, we were super awkward about intimacy. Somewhat awkwardly, we started talking about sex and our expectations, deciding on no surprises in sex! Through discussions, we understood how desire, drive, and arousal are different. Many things have changed since the first year of our marriage. We're now parents to two daughters and a son, and soon, our daughter-in-law will also join the family. We've faced many challenges together, and communication has always been the key! Smriti Dixit 56 years old, Indore Married

I was in a toxic marriage with someone who would consider sex as the wife's duty. As a result, for the first few years, it was a chore as my desires, or comfort, were never considered. When I got out of that relationship and went to therapy to rediscover myself, I spoke about trauma and the hate I had developed for intimacy. While discussing these things with my therapist, I realised my desires, needs, and boundaries matter. Sex is for me as well, and my satisfaction matters too. Now I am in a relationship after healing and things are so different when I know myself and my boundaries better. Sunita Bajan 40 years old, Bangalore Divorcee

Everyone uniquely experiences intimacy and desire! Remember, sex, your desires, and your relationships are nothing to be ashamed of. If you have doubts or questions, ask. If you have fears or concerns, share. If you need help, seek it without hesitation. Embrace your individuality and prioritise your happiness, knowing whatever works for you